100 Reasons Not To Fall Into Sexual Sin

As a young guy, I live with sexual temptations. Not everyone has a problem with this, some people do. Having the problem is not the greatest issue, but believing you don’t have any problems, when you actually do, is the greatest flaw one can face. Jesus came to heal the sick (Matthew 9:12), those who think are well off and free from the grasp of Satan in their lives need to double-check their hearts.

During a period in my life, I was considering falling into sexual sin with some girls. As I rationalized the issue at hand, I decided to write some reasons not to sin. My flesh said, “yes, because…”, but my renewed mind had some words to say to me. Here are my conclusions. I have found 100 reasons not to fall into sexual sin. Actually, I have found more, and I improve this list as I live.

I pray that these words help you in your journey, and that you meditate on them day and night. If you meditate on God’s word more often (Psalm 1), you will find yourself considering sin less often (great news, huh?). These are my thoughts on why not to fall, you can adjust them as you feel like. I only ask you, plead with you, beg you, that you consider these thoughts.

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Let’s start…

I Should Not Fall Into Sexual Sin Because:

  1. I have got to understand that to say yes to my wife is to say no to all the other girls in this world. This won’t start in the when I get married, it starts now, as I am single.
  2. I have goals in life that will not be accomplished if I fall now.
  3. It is incoherent for me to fight against private sin but fall publicly.
  4. If I involve myself with a girl that does not have her faith solidified in Jesus, I might be doing a great evil against the little ones from Jesus, and I know very well what Jesus thinks about people like that (Hint: Matthew 18 and Luke 17).
  5. To give myself into sensuality will awake in me feelings that will not go away until I satisfy them. I might end up in pornography, or worse, I might use someone to satisfy my desires, or I will have to repent before God, and in either situation, I will have to repent, sinning physically or not. To simply look at someone with evil intentions is to wage war against my new heart (yes, new heart, as Ezequiel 36 and 37. Yes, it will wage war against your heart, as Matthew 5:28 implicitly argues).
  6. I might be awakening a genuine feeling in this girl. And I’d be doing that while I am only thinking about satisfying my own flesh. I will hurt her, and this will create profound wounds in her relationship with God.
  7. If I involve myself with her I won’t be falling alone (which is terribly bad), but I will be taking someone down with me. Worst than that, she might think I actually wanted something deeper than body chemistry, I will be using her as my toy. My conscience will carry the burden of using a girl to satisfy my needs while ignoring her needs, feelings, and even her walk with God… this is a weight too heavy for my faith to carry.
  8. To use someone for my own desires is selfish. Objects are meant to be used, not people (Check out Agustine, in Ordo Amoris).
  9. After physically involving myself with her I might believe that I had something emotional going on. This is to begin a relationship the wrong way. To drive my car in A street is to end up driving at A street; if I drive my car in A street expecting to end up in B street is illogical. To start a relationship the wrong way and believe it will end up right is a risk I do not need to take.
  10. I would see myself as a man at the urinal; a guy that looks at women as a deposit for his fluids and just that (read The Porn-Again Christian). I, in the deep of my being, beyond the superficiality of my flesh, do not agree with this, I do not want this mentality for me! To change my egocentric mentality I need to abstain myself from certain attitudes with some girls.
  11. know for certain that if I start something with her in the physical realm before praying and dating the proper way I will be setting myself up for greater mistakes. This will appeal to my sinful and carnal mind, and we both will fall together (Luke 6:39).
  12. She might not even know the Lord! Maybe she is teasing me because she doesn’t know better, but I do! I do not want to ruin my relationship with God due to something quick.
  13. Many people look up to me and follow me, they listen to what I have to say and take my actions as a role model to follow. What will happen to their minds when they see me falling into the same pit I am trying to set them free from is beyond me. They will lose their trust in me, and probably won’t see sin as this pitiful and disgusting it is (Proverbs 7), but as something that is “good for food, a delight to the eye, and [something] to be desired” (Genesis 3:6).
  14. I actually understand that is not easy for one to “fall” into sexual sin, most of us throw ourselves over it. Falling is something spontaneous, is something that hasn’t been planned out, a wrong reaction to some action. To throw yourself is not to think ahead of you, it is, sometimes, to plan to sin. You don’t measure the consequences, you just dream with the moment (moment: letting your hormones and “neediness” control you).
  15. If I resolve to say yes to every sin my body desires I will destroy absolutely EVERYONE  around me.
  16. I gotta be a deeper man. My feelings and thoughts need to be deeper. If thinking about sinning in a superficial level puts my mind in the right place, imagine how absurd sinning would seem to you if you were a little bit wiser!?
  17. She is a person, a human being, someone with a story, that has been through a lot, that needs to be satisfied in God, that has wounds in her heart, that cries when she is alone, that needs someone to help her grow (in the book of Proverbs, the fool needs a wise men to teach him how to become wise). I don’t know her struggles, and I don’t wanna become one more struggle for her.
  18. Honestly, I do not know the real motivations of her heart. Is she seeking approval? Does she lack paternity? Does she need to be pursued? Is she seeking answers for something? Is she looking for her prince acting like the opposite of a princess? Does she think she is not worth of something better? Is she trying to make me stumble on purpose? Does she even know God?
  19. I am not married, but I love my wife (if God ever grants me the privillege of commiting myself to one of his daughters). I want to give my whole self to her, no reservations and no “b plans.” My wife deserves a complete man, an actual man (there are a few of them out there, believe me), and I need to start to be this man today, not tomorrow.
  20. If I say “yes” to sin just because I am single, for what reason would I think I would say “no” in the future? Just because I am married? Marriage doesn’t change hearts! If my relationship with Christ does not prevents me from sinning, why would a relationship with a limited and sinful woman prevent me from sinning?
  21. To do this would to disrespect her future husband.
  22. To do this is to throw away my authority to address these matters. It is possible that God wants to use me to help other people in this area, and one can only lifts people up if he’s standing.
  23. She is my sister in Christ, for God’s sake! Siblings don’t kiss each other and don’t have sexual relationships with each other! This is disgusting and it sickens me!
  24. If two siblings kissing each other is skanky in my sinful mind, how offensive is that to God’s!
  25. This would harden my heart up (Psalm 95:8).
  26. I love God!
  27. Jesus died for me, she didn’t! God deserves much more from me than she does!
  28. To do this is to say that God’s Grace isn’t suficient (2 Corinthians 12:9); it is to say that I need more than God to satisfy me.
  29. Both I and God would be sad at this.
  30. I’d feel guilty, and if I didn’t feel guilty I should be worried about how my relationship with God is going.
  31. I am at war against Satan! To warm myself up in the fire of hell, to warm my flesh up in sexual sin, will not help me in my attempt to defeat him.
  32. To play with fire is to ask to get burned, maybe eternally…
  33. To fall in love for sin is to fall out of love with Jesus.
  34. There are people out there who need me. I can’t waste my time with this.
  35. I have a lot to learn, I need to grow. No one grows and learns when they give up. If I comfortably accept my carnal desires I will never grow. I have got to stand up against myself, I gotta die to myself (Galatians 2:20; Ephesians 4:22-24; Phillipians 3:8; Colossians 3:5; etc).
  36. I cannot be dumb enough to think this will fade away as we touch each other. Sin is fire, fire spreads. Don’t be dumb, Natan.
  37. I will disappoint everyone.
  38. I will be giving credit to those who say christians are all the same.
  39. When I think about this I feel like I am punching Jesus in the face.
  40. I don’t know if what I am feeling is the result of my flesh calling me and demons working against me , but this is unacceptable!
  41. The Spirit wages war against the flesh (Galatians 5:17). To give freedom to the flesh is to decree bankrupcy on my soul.
  42. God ordained me to be as holy as he is (1 Peter 1:16). To do the very opposite of this is to wage war against the Lord of Wars.
  43. A stumbling block is not what I need at the moment, thanks Satan, I’ll pass.
  44. If I don’t come out victorious over my flesh before getting married, I will never come out victorious after getting married. I will end up tying two families up into this mess.
  45. I might awake something in her that will lead her to worse guys, and they will take her away from God’s ways, maybe eternally.
  46. Those who need the “hots” that sin provides are cold. If my flesh wants to warm itself up in the fire of hell, this shows me that I am spiritually cold. Logically, I need to warm my sould up. My flesh called me because my soul is cold. When my sould is warmed up inside the flaming love of God the requests of my flesh don’t make any sense at all, for they present no benefit for what actually matters: my spiritual life.
  47. Peter was warming his hands up in enemy fire (Mark 14:67). Maybe, my “fall” won’t be when I actualize my desires, but when I first deny Christ in my mind. To say yes to sin is to say “no” to Jesus. Dang…
  48. Those who deny Christ on earth will be denied in Heaven (Matthew 10:33).
  49. To be honest, I love my relationship with God, with my Bible, I love my moments of love with the Trinitarian God, way more than I love this girl! Priorities, Natan, priorities…
  50. To be longamonous is the act against how I want to act (Galatians 5:22). I cannot be guided by my feelings and momentaneous desires, I need to be guided by what the Word says!
  51. I want my mind to be saturated with God’s word, not full of temptations and accusations.
  52. This will prevent me from hearing God’s voice in Scripture, and I hate to live without his voice.
  53. It will be very hard for me to repent and forgive myself than it will be to sin again. This can make me a recidivist very easily.
  54. To be very honest, I do not even know how long it would take me to forgive myself.
  55. I am no longer a child, I do not need to be guided by my desiders. I am a grown up man who can control himself. Am I a slave? Yes! But I only obey my Master.
  56. I cannot use my freedom in Christ to sin (Romans 6:1-2; Galatians 5:13; 1 Peter 2:16).
  57. I might be leading more people into sin, and this worries me. It would be painful to watch more people falling because of me.
  58. This is simply the result of my non-satisfaction in Christ. I should seek to be satisfied in Him, not to turn my back against him.
  59. Animals cannot control it’s impulses, I can :)
  60. I should flee sexual temptation, not run after it (Genesis 39; 1 Corinthians 6:18; 2 Timothy 2:22).
  61. If I am not radical with myself, it will be useless to be radical in my preaching, “for what does it profit a man to gain the whole world and forfeit his soul?” (Mark 8:36).
  62. I really wanna help other people in this area, and this will not be possible if I give up now.
  63. I do not have freedom or free will to choose what my body needs (yeah I know you’ve been taught free-will is the greatest attribute one has. I’m sorry, they taught you wrong). I have been bought, “tetelestai!”, said Jesus in John 19:30. Words that were written in documents of purchase of a slave (yep, they taught you you are God’s servant, right? Incorrenct, you are his slave. Sorry buddy). Check out 1 Corinthians 6:20, 7:21; 1 Peter 1:18-19; and Revelation 5:9.
  64. I hate this attitute in other people. It logically follows that I must hate it in myself as well. To desire what I abhor is illogical.
  65. I am a mess without this sin, it wouldn’t be smart to shuffle the pieces of a puzzle when you’re trying to put it together.
  66. I wanna be an honorable man, and this mistake would make my journey into biblical manhood harder.
  67. I would be using someone else’s daughter. If someone ever uses my daughter this way I would get genuinely pissed, and hosnestly I don’t know what I would do.
  68. She needs to understand that the only way for her to receive the approval she seeks is in God. To get sexually involved with her won’t contribute to her life at all.
  69. She has got to be satisfied in God. To be involved with her the wrong way is to take her away from her main goal, I might make her think that she can actually be satisfied with boys.
  70. What both me and her actually need is the Gospel of the cross, not physical contact and sexual temptations.
  71. The renewal of my mind won’t happen if I keep my mind the same way (Romans 12:2).
  72. The unclean and the impure engage in such immoral acts. If I can act just as an unbeliever I might be following some other religion, because Christianity implies in acting differently from the rest of the world (1 John 2:15-17 and James 4:1-6).
  73. The pure of heart will see God (Matthew 5:8), the impure won’t. On a simple scale, my desire to see God is greater than my desire to satisfy my flesh.
  74. I am the light of the world (Matthew 5:14). Light cannot lose its bright, if it does it becomes useless; light without brightness cannot be distinguished from darkness. My God didn’t die to bring me into the empire of darkness, but into his glorious kingdom of light (Colossians 1:13).
  75. Him who loves his neighbor does not deny him food. If I say I love my relationship with God, yet neglect feeding it, I am not eating the Bread of Life (John 6), I am acting against what I love, this is irrational.
  76. To say that I follow Jesus but to go against what he teaches is millennial, I mean dumb, sorry my typo :)
  77. This will not bring me any spiritual benefits. To grow in my spiritual life is my greatest desire.
  78. What if the heart is not to be trusted because we don’t know our own hearts (Jeremiah 17:9)? I want to understand my heart, and to act against it will make this journey impossible.
  79. “I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worth comparing with the glory that is to be revealed to us,” Romans 8:18. Memorize this.
  80. I know that there are other Christians out there fighting these same battles and they are coming out victorious (1 Peter 5:8-10).
  81. The same Spirit that raised Jesus from the dead lives in me, I am able to say “no” to sin (Check out this song).
  82. Those who need help can’t be helped by someone who also needs help in this same area.
  83. The winner gives the speech, he gets the right to speak. Losers can’t teach, they need to learn. I need to win if I want to teach others.
  84. It is extremally immature of me to trade my eternal desires for some momentaneous desires.
  85. This would relativize a lot of this in my mind. A relativist mind is not “yes or no,” it belives in “in-betweens,” in grey areas, and they simply don’t exist (Matthew 5:37).
  86. I am called to hate sin (Psalm 97:10), not to hug it.
  87. I lost my freedom for the flesh when I became a slave of Christ.
  88. Jesus considers me his friend, it would not be loyal to betray him (John 15:12-17).
  89. This only displays my lack of knowledge and comprehension of God’s omnipresence. I would sin sexually before my pastor’s eyes, but I think God doesn’t seem me if I’m alone with her. Truth is, God, “if I ascend to heaven, you are there! If I make my bed in Sheol, you are there! If I take the wings of the morning and dwell in the uttermost parts of the sea, even there your hand shall lead me, and your right hand shall hold me” (Psalm 139).
  90. I have done this in the past. I know for certain that this will not satisfy my heart.
  91. My flesh is insatiable (Proverbs 27:20; Habakkuk 2:5), its desires will only grow larger. It is like drinking water from the sea, you think it will kill your thirst but it will only increase it.
  92. I KNOW where to find satisfaction, and I know that there is no one on this earth that can satisfy me besides God’s word (Psalm 119).
  93. I should carry the weight of my youth in silence (Lamentations 3:27). To throw this away is to reject learning and growth, and those who love God ought to “bear fruit in every good work and increase in the knowledge of God” (Colossians 1:10; also, check out 2 Peter 3:18).
  94. Actually, I don’t want to sin, I actually want to be satisfied in God, I am misreading my urges…
  95. To remember of what Jesus did at the cross blocks me from sinning
  96. Because it is sinful. Period.
  97. My body is not mine. It is the Spirit’s (1 Corinthians 6:19), it is God’s (3:16).
  98. I lost my life when I won Christ’s, I can’t try to recover my old life because I cannot lose my salvation (John 10 and Romans 8:35-39)! To try to go back is to ask to get hurt, it is to invest on a bankrupt company (Read this book, please).
  99. God does not come back in the words he declares. If he promised me an escape from these situations (1 Corinthians 10:13), and I must faithfully wait and accept this his ways in honor and fidelity, even if his escape route means losing my freedom (Genesis 39, Joseph’s escape route led him to jail).
  100. To engage on a pursuit after fool’s gold is stupidity, considering I have the greatest treasure one can possibly want: eternal salvation from sin.

What Now?

Now I pray that you will print this out and take this with you wherever you go. That when you sit on the toilet you will read this instead of browsing in your facebook account. Feed your soul with truths and you will hate lies.

God bless you! Share this with everyone you know!

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